Inner child and self love

The inner child is the most fragile and tender part of our personality. These are real we, whatever would come to this world. Not the ones that we want to be or that the environment has made us. This is the core of our self. Psychologists say that the inner child is often the most injured part of the personality. This happens because in childhood we are most vulnerable and if some kind of psychological trauma occurs, one part of our personality seems to break off and freeze at the same age forever.

Most of us have unconscious psychological trauma. Think about those that you are most embarrassed about in yourself. Most often, these are just children’s traits: sensitivity, credulity, emotionality, ineptitude, weakness. We want to see ourselves only as perfect, smart and strong adults. It’s easy to love yourself. It is hard to see and accept in yourself a weak child who needs care, but this is called self-love. Self-love is when we feel real, as we came to this world, completely unadorned. Contact with an inner child not only fosters love, but also raises self-esteem, reveals our potential. We stop building ourselves up to gain the approval of others. Learning to listen to the deepest part of our selves, where all our talents and unique abilities are stored. Techniques for working with him are simply indispensable for all insecure people.

Technique “Restoring contact with the inner Sit in the most comfortable position and close your eyes. Watch your breath, try to breathe deeply and slowly. Breathe in with your stomach, concentrating on the exit. Now imagine that you are on the seashore. It breathes easily and pleasantly, a refreshing sea breeze blows your hair. You walk slowly along the coast. And suddenly you see a little girl in the distance. Her age can be anything. You come to her, look into her eyes. Carefully take her in your arms and say: “You are my good, I want you to know, I love you very much and will always be with you. You are safe now. You no longer have to meet anyone’s expectations, I love you the way you are. I will never give you a grudge. “

A little girl turns into a very tiny one that fits on her palm. You take it in your hand, like an Thumbelina, and place it in the chest area. Now your little girl lives in your heart. You walk along the seashore, put your hand to your chest and say: “Now you are forever with me. You are safe now. ”

This technique can cause severe crying, an almost uncontrolled stream of tears. Do not be alarmed, this opens and heals your deep childhood injuries. This technique needs to be done until the result. That is, until the moment your little girl inside feels completely safe. Then you will be freed from feelings of shame, guilt, insecurity. You will no longer need the approval of others in any situation, because now you are under reliable protection. You love and accept yourself.

Meditation “Restoring the interrupted flow of parental love”Focus on your breath for several minutes. Try to breathe as deep as possible while prolonging exhalation.Imagine that you are a little girl, fragile and defenseless. You were just born to your parents. Remember the moment when you first felt fear, resentment, disappointment in your own mother. Remember how she had to leave, and you felt like she had rejected you. And even when she returned, it was difficult for you to feel confidence in her again. Every child has this experience; try to find it in your soul.

Now look into your mother’s eyes and tell her with all your heart: “You are the best mother in the world because you gave me life. You did everything right. You did everything to save my life, and I gratefully accept this gift. I will become a good person and pass on the gift of life to my children, if I will be allowed. I accept you as my mother, and for me you are the best mother in the world, there is no other. And I’m the best child you need for you. You give, but I accept. You are big, but I am small. I love you, and you love me. ”

You look at your mother and see how the golden thread of love stretches between you again. You feel a powerful stream of love from your mother’s heart. You hug her, thank her and say: “I love you. Everything is fine with us now. ”

You look in the eyes of your dad and remember the moment when you first felt that he had left you. The father plays a huge role in the life of the child. He takes the soul from God and transfers it to his beloved for embodiment. You look in the eyes of the pope and say that he is the best for you. If it was not there, then this experience was necessary for your soul. You say: “You are the best dad in the world and I thank you for the life that you gave me. You are my father, and I am your daughter. You give, but I accept. I take your wisdom and blessing. You are big, but I am small. You are the best father in the world. ”

A powerful stream of love opens in the heart of your father, and you see how the golden thread connects you again. Your connection with your father has been restored. You love each other.

Meditation “Healing the Inner Child”

Sit in a comfortable position, where no one will bother you. Relax and breathe deeply for several minutes. Imagine the most unpleasant situation that you experienced as a young child. It can be a quarrel with parents or resentment in the kindergarten. Or maybe you were once lost in a crowd and very scared. Remember the situation in great detail. Remember all your feelings and feel like that little, defenseless child that you were. Perhaps tears will appear in your eyes. Do not be scared and do not be shy about them, let yourself cry.

Now imagine that you, as you are now, in adulthood, find yourself next to this baby. What feelings does he cause you at this moment? Try to feel all the love, sympathy, support that you are capable of. Think about what you can do for this child now. Take him to his parents, punish the offenders? Tell him what you were so lacking at that age that then you wanted to hear more than anything else. Tell this child: “You are not to blame for anything, baby. You are the best and dearest to me! Everything is fine, I’m with you, I will protect you in any situation. You are safe with me. ”

Think about what you can do to please and reassure this baby. What did you like most as a child? Take him to the zoo, buy him ice cream, ride him on the rides. Let him be himself. Do what your parents forbade you. Jump in the puddles, play with homeless animals. You can do everything. When you feel that your baby is now completely calm, tell him: “Now we have to leave, but remember, I am always with me. Call me as soon as you need. I will come and reassure you. You can always rely on me. No matter what happens, I’m on your side. I will not scold you. “

This meditation can be repeated repeatedly, to work through all the unpleasant memories from childhood. Over time, you will learn to hear the voice of your inner child, calm him, satisfy his needs. You will learn and love yourself on a whole new level.

Forgiveness and Purification Meditation

Calm your breath, relax and sit back. Imagine being in a huge building or palace. Somewhere here there is a secret room where the most injured part of your personality in the form of a small child is hiding. You find this room, it is dark and dusty. The punished kid is sitting in it. Look into his eyes, take his hand. Feel all the shame and pain that live in it. Ask this child what he is here for. He will show you huge books, bills, papers, where all the offensive words that he heard throughout his life will be written. Read them, and you will certainly be struck by one or two of the most offensive words that make up the essence of your injury. What you are ashamed of most.

Hug the little child and tell him that he is not guilty of anything. Strangers or relatives simply ripped off their anger on him. They tried to adapt it to their ideas and needs. But he is beautiful as God created him. Tell this child that he does not need to become better, to try to earn someone’s love. He is already the best for you, and you love him more than anything in the world.

Take the baby on the handles and go with him to the window. Open the heavy, dark curtains, open the window, let the light flood into this room. Watch how the room changes in the rays of the bright sun. The accusation books melt, just dissolve, as if they were made of ice. Fresh wind from the window takes away all the dust and dirt, the room is cleaned. Everything changes: the color of the walls, furniture, it is completely transformed. Now it is a clean and spacious place. As if by magic, flowers and toys appear in the room, everything that can please a small child. You whirl around the room with him, jump, scream with joy. You are happy together! Tell the baby: “Now everything is behind us, no one else will ever hurt you. I love you and will always be there! ”

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